15 people share the worst advice they got when they were young

15 people share the worst advice they got when they were young15 people share the worst advice they got when they were youngThese are the best years of your lifeThis was the advice countless adults gave me about my high school and college years.Is it really true?, I remember thinking, dejected. How was it possible that my best years would be over before I ventured out into the world as a fully formed adult?Turns out, those adults were totally, tragically wrong. Life gets better when youre able to create the one you want for yourself. The larger point being, sometimes the pearls of wisdom people dispense to us when were young and impressionable are misdirected, misinformed, or just plain bad no matter how well-meaning the advisor. And sometimes that bad advice ends up being the most eye-opening of our lives.Weve all received advice as young people that turned out to be hogwash advice aboutcareersuccess,workethic, romantic or interpersonalrelationships, or life in general. So we aske d Thrivescontributorcommunity to share some words of wisdom that just didnt hold up, and what they wish theyd been told instead.Follow your passion.This advice once sounded great, but it assumes that I had some predisposed passion that I was born with. I didnt. So instead, I spent years searching for my passion, wasting valuable time and money. I didnt find it, and it left me with heartache. It wasnt until I realized that passion isnt something youre born with, its something you develop, when things changed. I wish I had instead been given the advice to, develop your passion. That would have been a life changer.- James Huntington, marketing manager, Seattle, WAYour college major doesnt matter.I was told by numerous adults throughout my college years that it didnt matter what I studied. I think their intention was to assuage the anxiety I felt about my lifes direction and how my career might unfold. The intended message was that I would be OK regardless of my major, but the way it w as said made me feel helpless and like I was wasting time. In result, I wasted time floundering and not making intentional decisions. If I could go back, I would tell myself to think about jobs that interest me and the skills they require, and then work backwards from there.- Christine Ahlstrom, academic adviser, Seattle, WAWhen in conflict, just walk away.Ive learned the hard way that walking away from an argument in a relationship is the worst thing to do because it makes your partner feel unappreciated and not heard. Its so hard, and I am not perfect at it, but staying in the argument is more beneficial (and results in resolution) than just avoiding and walking away.- Fara Rosenzweig, content professional, San Francisco, CADont move out. Stay home and save up money.My aunt gave me this advice when I had just graduated high school and lived my whole life up to that point in a one-stoplight farm town. I needed culture, city lights, room to make mistakes I didnt follow her advice. Im glad I didnt. If I could speak to my younger self now, Id say, Move out. Youre amazing and youll do great things.- Megan, corporate recruiter, Baltimore, MDDont be bossy.As a young girl who liked to lead my pack of friends, I took this as If you agree, people will like you. I have spent most of my young adulthood seeking the approval of others rather than being the leader I am. It was just recently that I had an epiphany that being bossy isnt a bad thing- Taylor Bento, MBA, Knoxville, TNYoull be happy once youre successful.I was told to go to university, get a job, work hard and become successful - and once you are successful, then youll be happy. So, I studied a career I didnt like, to end up in a job I hated. I worked hard and became successful, but I wasnt happy. Today, 25 years later, science proves that happiness is not the result of success but leads to success in nearly every area of our lives especially at work and in business. If I could go back in time Id tell my you nger self Trust your intuition. Everything is going to be ok Marc Reklau, consulting, Barcelona, SpainYou pick a person, you pick a platzset of problems.My mom told me this relationship advice, and for years, it seemed to make sense to me. It wasnt until my early forties that I realized the advice had caused me to constantly be on alert for the negative in my relationships That set of problems that I was willing to live with for the rest of my life. It made me afraid to commit to another person, because who wants to be committing to a set of problems? Letting go of that idea allowed me to be open to finding true love. If I could go back, I would tell my younger self that life is an adventure. Find a person who makes you happy and enjoy the ride- Rebecca K., freelance writer editor, Westlake, OHDont attract too much attention.As an Asian-American female, my family always told me this. It was better to blend in and be humble. Im grateful that as I got older and more confident in mys elf and my abilities, I stopped listening to them. Speaking up for what I believe in and celebrating what makes me unique is one of the best things that I have done. Being different, vocal and authentic is what has created genuine connection with my audience and brings continued success. Dont ever dim your light because others are afraid of how bright you shine.- Marian Bacol-Uba, spirituality, holistic health and wellness, Miami, FLFake it until you make it.The first time I got promoted into a leadership role, I wasnt sure I could do the job. Many leaders told me this advice. Whereas I understood what they were trying to say, I chose a different path full transparency. After working with employees at all levels throughout my career, I have found that people have really good B.S. detectors. Lack of knowledge and experience can be forgiven and even embraced as signs of a humble leader. Lack of perceived authenticity often isnt. I chose to be honest about what I knew and didnt know. I found that it made people follow me more and help me be a successful leader.- James Sudakow, consulting, San Diego, CADont expect a fairytale ending.I once opened up to my mom about the anxiety I was feeling about my fiance, and she told me that in reality, you find someone youre moderately compatible with and make a life together no fireworks or soulmusik mating required. There was such cognitive dissonance between what I heard and what I believed that I ultimately eschewed her advice. I called off the nuptials, spent some time soul searching (and lamenting) before I met the man that made me feel the way I hadnt before certain that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this person. That was ten years ago and that man loves me, my daughter and the two daughters we had next today more than ever. Sometimes mother doesnt know best. You do.- Ashley Carroll, health marketing and communications, Omaha, NEBe a man.My father used to tell me Be a man. Stop crying. Years later, I l earned that manliness is not the lack of emotion it is the lack of despair. Now, I would tell my younger self that boys become men not when they stop feeling, but when they embrace what they feel and stop allowing it to overwhelm their spirit.- Simon Tang, business student, SingaporePursue a sensible career.Im a naturally creative type at heart, but because I had good grades in science, I was told by many people that I should pursue a career in science engineering because thats where the money and job security was. I spent almost fifteen years as a consulting engineer but I was miserable and my health declined. When I finally decided to quit my career as an engineer and follow my passion, my health improved. If I had my time again I would tell my younger self Tune in, find your own personal truth and follow that and success and happiness will follow.- Kate De Jong, global career coach, Perth, AustraliaIf you love what you do, youll never work a day in your life.This advice turn ed out to be wrong. In fact, its more like this If you love what you do, youll kinda work all the time. Im not saying work is bad, but if you keep chasing a work life that is nothing but fun and easy all the time, youre going to miss out on some amazing opportunities and lessons. Work can be tough, weird, difficult, complicated, beautiful, fun, easy all at the same time If you take every little bump in the road as a sign youre going in the wrong direction, youll never get very far.- Trine Ravnkilde Frederiksen, online community expert, DenmarkYour grades will dictate your success.My mom gave me this advice when I was in school, so I learned as much as I could, memorized all the facts, and tried my hardest to get straight As. My mom failed to mention that to be successful in life, you dont need only knowledge, but also necessary life skills.- Patricia Bloj, corporate wellbeing, London, UKYou never get a second chance to make a first impression.My first boss told me this advice, and over time, I learned it was wrong, and it can become a burden. Trying to create a good first impression hinders people from being authentic, experimenting and taking risks we are so worried about creating a wrong impression that we all play safe. Job interviews are a perfect example most candidates act like robots. They are anything but authentic. My version of the advice is You always get a first chance to make a second impression. Take risks. Its better to be liked for who you are than to be appreciated for who you pretend to be.- Gustavo Razzetti, change leadership consultant, Chicago, ILThis article was originally published on ThriveGlobal.com.

How to Organize Your Paperwork

How to Organize Your PaperworkHow to Organize Your PaperworkThe only time you seem to think about your important documentsis when you need them. And, oftentimes, you cant find them when you need them because you either dont have an organized and centralized system for storing your important documents and/or the last time you needed them, you simply tossed it back into the sea of papers in your home office instead of putting it back where it belonged. Getting Started With all of your important papers spread throughout your house, you waste a lot of time and energy searching for them. Youre also at risk of losing some of them completely. But with a few simple steps, you can organize your important paper documents in one hour this weekend Youll need a small two-drawer filing cabinet or a porreiterle hanging file box, multi-colored hanging files (6 different colors), manila third-cut top-tab folders, and a fireproof safe (optional). Or you could purchase a large langbinder and tab in serts. Once youve got the goods here are the six steps youll follow to organize your paperwork. Gather Your Documents Before you can organize all of your important documents, you must locate them. It is sometimes easier said than done. Check yourhome office in drawers and the papers stacked on your desk or table.Check the piles of paper cluttering your kitchen countertops as well as kitchen drawers and baskets.Look on your bedroom dresser and nightstand (you could have left them there in the morning rush and forgot about them).Last, but not least, check your purse or briefcase for important documents that youre accidentally still carrying around. Categorize The most important documents fall into one of the following six categories. Sort all of your gathered documents as follows Home and Property Records - mortgage, property deeds, home improvement projects and receipts, appliance manuals and warranties, property tax information, home insurance policies, and manualsAuto Recor ds- titles, maintenance records, insurance policies and information, loan information and payment recordsHealth Records - insurance policies, health insurance benefits manuals, explanation of medical benefits, doctor bills, prescription lists, flexible spending information, medical receipts, medical directives, life insurance policies Financial Records- bank statements, tax returns, tax deduction records, investment records, loan records, credit card statementsElectronics Records- cell phone contracts and manuals sales receipts and warranties for computers, laptops, and iPads cable and Internet plans and bills wireless router sales receipt and manualPersonal Records- birth certificates, marriage certificate, divorce certificate, custody papers, social security information, immunization records, passports, military service records, baptismal and confirmation records, wills, funeral plan, and burial site information. If you have pets, you can also include their important documents suc h as veterinary and vaccine information in this category. Find Your Vital Documents fruchtwein of your important documents can be stored in a regular filing cabinet or portable hanging file box. There are some. However, that really should be stored in a fireproof safe or offsite storage option such as a safety deposit box. Vital documents are documents that would be very difficult or very time-consuming to replace.They may contain sensitive personalinformation that could be compromised in the event of a break-in or robbery.In the event, your home was destroyed by fire or flood youd want these vital documents to remain intact. For most people, the following documents would be considered vital social security information, birth certificates, insurance policies along with your agents contact information, wills, property deeds,car titles, your passport and any contract or agreement that required your original signature. Make a master listof all of thevital documents you place inyou r fireproof safe or in an offsite storage option. Duplicate Your Wallet fruchtwein of us carry critical information in our wallets each day. Do you know everything thats in your wallet? What would you do if your wallet were lost or stolen? Make copies your drivers license, donor card, health insurance card(s), membership cards like the gym grocery store loyalty cards, warehouse clubs, and, most importantly, all credit and debit cards (copy front and back).Keep these copies with your other important paper documents Step Five Create a simple filing system The simpler the filing system, the more likely you are to use it on a consistent basis.Take each category of important document and assign it a hanging file color Home and Property RecordsAuto RecordsHealth RecordsFinancial RecordsElectronics RecordsPersonal Records Add the appropriate number of hanging files to your filing system for the number of documents you have in each category. Use the manila folders and create a folder fo r each individual document within each category. Place the folders in the appropriate colored hanging file section. If you purchased a large three-ring binder and tab inserts, label the tabs with the above record names, paper hole punch all documents and organize them.If the papers shouldnt be paper hole punched, paper hole punch a folder and put the documents in the folder. Now, if paperwork just isnt your thing this may be a freeing moment for you.You could scan all of these documents, save them to a hard drive, and then shred it all.But use your own discretion as some paperwork is better left saved.Use your best judgment. Ongoing Maintenance Now that your important papers are organized keep them organized.Each month when you pay your bills, file any new documents in the appropriate section of your filing system.At the same time, look for any documents you removed from the system during the month that might still be out of the filing system. Re-file them. At least twice a year , review the documents in your filing system to see if any can be purged. A good schedule to follow is at the first of the year and at the end of each school year. With a little effort, you can reap long-term benefits by organizing your important paper documents. Edited by Elizabeth McGrory.

Is doing your taxes making you crazy Heres why it shouldnt

Is doing your taxes making you crazy Heres why it shouldntIs doing your taxes making you crazy Heres why it shouldntIts tax time in the U.S., which means Americans and residents are hurriedly poring over paperwork, filling in forms and hoping to file by the April 15 deadline.While for many it may be routine, for otherbeis its a significant source of stress. A friend recently told me taxes were driving her crazy because she was worried about the ramifications of making a mistake.One way to reduce a stressful situation is to think about the worst case scenarios and just how unlikely they are to transpire. So to calm her down, I pointed out a few facts about what could happen if you do something wrong on your taxes and then regaled her with the only story I could find of the tax man actually driving someone crazy.It made her a lot calmer, so if you are stressing about taxes these facts might help you too.1. Jail timeWe may as well start with the absolute worst case scenario if theres a problem with your taxes You could go to jail.This is highly unlikely, however. The most recent year of data is from 2016, when just 927 people received jail sentences for tax crimes. The crimes were things like selling fake tax software, embezzling large sums of money, being an unscrupulous tax return preparer, and challenging the legality of taxes and refusing to file.The IRS also put another 1,200 people in jail for other severe crimes like identity theft, money laundering or not reporting money earned from drug trafficking. The IRS is very clear in its instructions Income from illegal activities, such as money from dealing illegal drugs, must be included in your income on Schedule 1.Put simply, no one goes to jail for making an innocent mistake when filing out their tax forms.2. The dreaded auditThe second-worst thing that could happen is getting audited. This is also a low probability event.Ordinary people are more likely to die or be seriously injured in a car accident than ge t dragged into the IRS offices for an audit.If you want the exact figures, in calendar year 2016 individuals filed 150 million tax returns. The IRS examined just 0.6 percent of them.Moreover, 77 percent of these tax examinations were done by sending letters back and forth. That means less than 0.2 percent of all filers had to go into the IRS to have their taxes examined.Your odds of being audited increase if you are very rich or self-employed with lots of revenue, but most people in these categories pay tax lawyers to worry for them.3. Mathematical mayhemLots of people make minor math errors when they file their taxes. But if you do, you shouldnt sweat it.The IRS even tracks the number of math mistakes.The IRS reported that 2.5 million returns for 2017 had these kinds of errors. About half a million were so small, however, that the agency didnt even notify the filers about it.And the likelihood that youll make a math mistake has declined in recent years at the same time that the IRS has promoted typically free web-based software that crunches the numbers for you. In 2002, for example, the IRS sent out 13.3 million math error letters.I actually got one a few years ago when I was leise doing my taxes with a hand calculator and a pencil. The IRS simply informed me that I had made a math error, which lowered my expected tax refund by a few hundred dollars. It also gave me the option to protest.I was very irritated and briefly considered protesting. But after going over my taxes again, I realized, sure enough, I did mess up. By the next morning I was over my anger, primarily at myself, and went on with my life.4. Pay upOf course, you could end up owing the IRS a lot of money.But like going to jail or getting audited, the fear of this is greatly overstated because the vast majority of people in the U.S. either get a refund or dont owe the federal government any money more than 80 percent of filers in 2016.The average refund this year is around $3,000 little change d from brde year before the 2017 tax law took effect.Whos afraid of the tax man?Hopefully, if tax season is stressing you out, the above facts help you feel a bit better. If they dont, maybe it will help to know I could only find a single example of someone going crazy over taxes and it happened long ago during a special period in American history.In the late 1700s, just before the Revolutionary War, people in the 13 colonies were passionately debating if they should break away from Great Britain. Massachusetts, one of the hotspots of revolutionary activity, was home to a famous lawyer named James Otis.He was originally King George IIIs official legal representative in Boston before resigning and joining the revolutions leadership. Otis is the Patriot who coined the famous slogan taxation without representation is tyranny.His well-publicized views about taxes earned him enemies, including British tax collector John Robinson, who confronted Otis in a local Boston coffee shop. In the ensuing fight, Robinson beat Otis so badly that the Patriot suffered severe head injuries that drove him insane.Fortunately, dealing with the tax authorities today is much safer even in Florida, where collectors were recently discouraged by the state attorney general from carrying guns on the job.In other words, theres little reason to sweat tax time. There is little chance of going to jail, being audited or owing a huge amount of money. There is almost no chance you will be beaten up by the tax collector, as Otis was. The most likely result is you will receive a refund like most people.So if youre one of the millions of people who put off filing their taxes to the last minute, why delay?Jay L. Zagorsky, Senior lecturer, Boston UniversityThis article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.

Kathryn Troutman Interview on Mike Causey Radio Show

Kathryn Troutman Interview on Mike Causey Radio ShowKathryn Troutman Interview on Mike Causey Radio ShowKathryn Troutman Interview on Mike Causey Radio Show May 23, 2019From Kathryn Troutman, Founder and President, Resume Place, Inc.LISTEN TO THE INTERVIEW ONLINEMike Causey interviewsKathryn Troutman and Bobbi Rossiter aboutMilitary Spouse Federal Resumesand Federal Job Search.Your Turn FedNewsRadioRecorded on May 22, 2019Top Tips in the interviewMore jobs are available for military spouseson USAJOBS due to changes on USAJOBS with theMilitary Spouse Program EO13473IMPORTANT New Federal Resume Format is recommended to feature a new JOB BLOCK with your Military Spouse PCS Job History.Recommend that you make your military spouse position clear on your federal resumeVolunteer positions are equal to paid positions, if you create a job block with this information.Federal Resumes are 3 to 5 pagesprivate sector resumes are 2 pages.Spouses of Active Duty Military person can use EO 13473. T hey do not need to relocatewith the military spouse.They can use the Order from any geographic location.The EO 13473 can be used for theentire time you are at each installation(formerly, this was 2 years).Military Spouses should go forFederal jobs on military bases Bobbi Rossiter, Mike Kozlowski, Nicole Becker with military spouses at Ft. Rucker, AL May 16, 2019Bobbi Rossiter, USMC Military Spouse taught the class, Stars are Lined Up for Military Spouses at Ft. Rucker, AL ACS last week. The spouses learned how to add their PCS History to their resume to get CREDIT for experienceNicole Becker baked beautiful cookies. Nicoles resume is in the new Stars are Lined Up for Military Spouse book. She emphasizes her entrepreneurial and business skills and her Military Spouse Career History in her federal resume.The Stars are Lined Up for Military Spouses Available as Print Book or PDF with Immediate Download. Also reservierung from Amazon.com Kindle or print book

Top Office Manager Resume Sample Choices

Top Office Manager Resume Sample Choices The use of such templates will conserve an assortment of your time. Even the very best free Word resume templates might not appear great on all computers. Resume templates can be referred before writing to have a better insight into the most suitable format. Resume templates that you locate on the internet may get the job done. Office Manager Resume Sample - Dead or Alive? A construction management resume needs to be specific on the type of construction projects that the applicant is in a position to manage and supervise. So if youre planning to submit an application for a new job in 2019, you have to have a foolproof plan to construct or update your resume. So as to evaluate if a candidate is an excellent fit for consulting work, the screener has to be insightful and have consulting experience. If youre an assistant manager whos seeking to be a shift manager, then you are going to require a management resume that shows off your valu e to the company, and a management resume that shows your professional development too. You wont have the ability to practice personal management until youre ready to follow that inner dialog and understand where youre headed. Management resumes benefit from listing the important skills of a person. The impact an expert management resume can provide is developed on its foundation. A geschftsleben management resume can be employed by means of an applicant whose work experiences are regarding the industry of commerce and company. Eager for skilled growth, greater responsibility and the chance to apply extensive sales and management experience in a challenging atmosphere. If youre looking for a career in management, you probably have years of expert experience under your belt. Additionally, there are a few helpful ideas to help you craft a successful resume. A History of Office Manager Resume Sample Refuted Actually, an objective based resume confirms that youre interested in w orking for a particular restaurant. Problem-solving in management involves identifying a specific problem or situation and then locating the ideal way to deal with the issue and receive the best solution. Its particularly important if writing your work experience. You might need to advise your former boss about the prospect of a reference check and explain what the business is seeking. Most employers also wish to understand your address listed. General managers oversee numerous stores in a certain region. Most consulting firms receive an immense number of resumes. Write your executive resume 1 section at one time if youve got to. The New Fuss About Office Manager Resume Sample A manager has to be accountable for each and every decision they make and also be ready to take responsibility for those outcomes of their decisions. A manager is somebody with a wonderful deal of responsibility to his staff and the business. Your manager resume clearly needs to concentrate on your precise experience and should not be overly generic. Every manager should have good delegation abilities to attain optimal outcome and accomplish the essential productivity outcomes. Under each work title is a brief description that explains Alexs responsibilities in that specific function. In addition, you can look for program manager jobs on Monster. Cornell University supplies a 2-week on-line leadership class. When delegation is performed effectively, it helps facilitate easy and quick results. Should you do your work well, the office will appear to run itself. Managing offices can involve a tremendous quantity of responsibility. If you previously live close to the businesss office, great Enable the employer know precisely the way the firm will profit in the auffhrung they determine to interact your companies. Think of the position you need and the company doing the hiring. If you dont have a business background, its still important to include your qualifications.

The Most Effective Ways to Deal with an Overly Competitive Co-Worker - Spark Hire

The Most Effective Ways to Deal with an Overly Competitive Co-Worker - Spark HireWhen one of your colleagues is highly competitive, it can make work tense, to say the least. But there are strategies you can use to prevent this individual from making your job stressful or unpleasant, regardless of how they approach their own role within the company. Some of the most effective ways of dealing with a highly competitive co-worker includeRefuse to play the gameIts natural to feel your own competitive streak flare up when a colleague is constantly bragging about the praise they received from the boss, the number of sales they made that day, or how much clients love them. However, fight the urge to be equally competitive. Doing so wont make your working situation any more pleasant in fact, it will only cause tensions to flare even more. Just because your colleague chooses to bring an unnecessary level of competition to the workplace, doesnt mean you need to do the same.Focus on your role wi thin the company, not theirsWhen you have a highly competitive colleague, its easy to let them consume your thoughts. However, instead of worrying about what theyre doing and saying, make it a point to focus fully on your own role within the company. Be a kollektiv player. Share ideas, help out co-workers when theyre in a jam, and dont be the first to take credit when something goes right. When others see you as an essential part of the office, your stock within that company will rise, regardless of others behavior.Analyze the office in generalEven the best offices can be plagued with one or two overly competitive people. However, its necessary to take a step back and analyze the situation. Do you find that many or most of your co-workers are unnecessarily competitive? If so, you may want to consider finding work elsewhere. This kind of environment can quickly become toxic and detrimental to your career and mental state.Dont just accept the behaviorIf your co-workers behavior is imp acting your own ability to perform, its time to say something. You dont need to have a screaming argument in the middle of the cafeteria, but you should be honest with them and explain how their actions are affecting you. In some cases, the individual may have no idea that their competitive nature has become out of control. Cluing them in can help them to tone down behauptung tendencies, making the company a much more pleasant place to work.How do you deal with overly competitive co-workers? Let us know in the commentsImage pressmaster/BigStock.com